Greetings everyone.  Updates:

1)  Steve is now cancer free – thanks for the prayers.  His type of eye cancer is highly recurring, so now we just pray that the every 90 day scan he is scheduled for will also be cancer free.

2)  We took Trina to UC Davis.  The doctor there is not optimistic about her improving and in fact denied that her “more movement” and “making noises / sounds” had anything to do with an improved brain… and he just reiterated how an Anoxic brain injury is the most severe “whole” brain damage that does not get recovered from.  This could have been depressing but we still CHOOSE to have hope.  He did give us a new medication for sleeping that is also an anti-depressant and though it is not working that great for sleep – she is laughing all day long.  The best hope we have is that she is so peaceful, so loving and now laughing that we ARE able to ENJOY her and feed her LOVE … so this is all good news that we will stand by.  We can’t wait for the day that SHE IS IMPROVED where the doctors cannot ignore the improvement and have to call it a MIRACLE 🙂  So, keep up the prayers with us.

3)  What is new is that MOM is learning that she cannot work very much at all.  Trying to work at home was successful for a couple of months, but now that Trina is SO active and SO LOUD with her sounds, etc. – that it prohibits mom from talking to clients without having to explain the situation – or Trina’s actions hinder even holding the phone or being on the computer.  The more active she is the happier we are for her but the more we have to watch her every moment to keep her safe and the more working is just not possible.  This will greatly diminish income.  However, NO we are not asking for anyone to help with that.  We are simply going to pull back and tighten up and make it work for us.  Of course prayers for the whole family will always be needed…this is just a big change unfolding.

4)  Recently there have been family members and others who have thought it was best for us to put Trina in a skilled nursing home.  We absolutely KNOW that we will never do this unless we CANNOT care for her physically because remember we practically lived at the skilled nursing facility she was at for one year.  These people are warehoused.  Even with good help there – it is not the love of one’s family…. and it is clearly more dangerous as to infection, etc.  Safety is at OUR HOME, LOVE IS AT OUR HOME.  And, we do not desire to make ourselves “comfortable” by sacrificing her well being.  LOVE is not easy and LOVE is tested and we have the LOVE to endure.  Of course life is different now and we cannot be selfish as we used to be able to be but that is OK.  We do not ask for anyone to feel sorry for us.  But, we do hope that these type of suggestions diminish over time.

5)  As for Trina’s husband – we have put no pressures on him and he may or may not be able to handle seeing her on a regular basis – we have left this up to him.  Though she carries his name – they are not operating as “in a marriage.”  We remain her conservators and will remain in charge of all decisions for her.  Some people have voiced that our ability to forgive and embrace him touched them and some have voiced anger about that choice.  Truthful updates will continue as opinions are always there and always vary.  We know opinions are given out of love and so no offense taken!

Sharing pic below of recent laughter episode…. just because.

God Bless all of you and thanks for checking in.